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How sweet it is to be loved by you

How sweet it is to be loved by you

We sat around the table, six friends who haven’t seen each other in quite a long time.   The food was passed.  The wine was flowing.  We joked.  We laughed.  The mood was light, and levity filled the air. 

 

But then, as if a cool wind blew, the mood changed, instantly.  Someone asked the question, “How is Walter doing?”  The answer wasn’t good.  Walter wasn’t well.  Walter was actually in very bad shape, and it was clear, Walter wasn’t going to make it. 

 

The room fell silent.  The laughter stopped.  Everyone became pensive.  Sure, Walter was the catalyst, but Walter wasn’t the only reason for the change.  The six friends all had other things on their minds.  While different, everyone was troubled by something.  Everyone was trying to keep it in, and trying to put on a happy face. Be it concern for a sick family member or friend, issues with their jobs, or mourning the loss of a loved one, each friend felt something gnawing at their hearts.

 

 

But, like a damn that broke, the façade of the happy faces was shattered.  One by one, each friend shared their worries, their emotions, and their feelings.  Smiles and laughs quickly turned into cleansing tears.  There wasn’t a dry eye in the house.

 

Another bottle of wine was opened, and the mood changed yet again.  “The problem with people in general,” one friend said, “is that we don’t take the time to tell those around us exactly how much they mean to us.  And, then, before we know it, it is too late.”

 

His wife remarked, “You are right.  I don’t want to wait until my funeral to know what I meant to people.  I want to know now.”

 

The six friends fell silent. They each pondered that comment.  Perfect sense it made to them.  What is the point in not sharing what you feel about those you care about?   So, that is what we did.  We had our funerals.   Ok, maybe not exactly, but we did go around the table and share what mattered most to us about each other.   We relieved memories of visits and vacations past.  We started to joke.  We laughed.  And once again, the mood was light, and levity filled the air.  But, this time, we all knew just how much we were loved and how much we all meant to one another….

 

 

Have you told those close to you lately how much they mean to you?

58 thoughts on “How sweet it is to be loved by you

  1. What a great post! And it is so poignant because it is so true. We often do not take the time necessary to tell those that mean the most to us just how important they really are. It is funny that most people think that family is the most important but the truth of the matter is that we spend far more time with friends and co-workers than family members, even though family are those that are there through thick and thin!

    Great post!!

    1. Brenda – Thanks so much… I will never forget this night…. It is so true, we don’t take enough time to let those who mean the most to us know how much they do… I like to think of friends as the family we choose…..

    1. Amber – thanks so much… That is exactly how I felt that night… Part of me was so in the moment, and another part was thinking, this is what we always should do…. Make sure everyone knows how much they really mean to us…

    1. Max – I know.. It is so easy to keep everything inside, and assume the other person knows what we feel, or that we have so much time to tell/show them… But really, do we? Pawhugs back at ya!

  2. I definitely don’t take the time to let people know how much I care, at least with words. But I hope my actions say what my words don’t always. Very nice post. It reminded me of how I felt after some friends passed away, I wondered if they knew what they meant to me. We had drifted apart, which I know is normal, but naturally it made me wish that we hadn’t or at least wish that Facebook was around back then and we could have been up to date with one another that way.

    1. Jennifer – I personally believe words are great, but I would take actions over words anytime! Sadly too many people toss words around, but there actions never are in sync with their “claims”. I am sorry about your friends. It is sad when we loose touch, especially if something bad happens. That is one of the things I love most about Facebook, it makes it easy to have a relationship with someone you probably wouldn’t in daily life…

  3. What a lovely bunch of friends! True friends should be able to talk with each other in comfort about anything and everything! Take care
    x

    1. Old Kitty – they are a really great bunch. I am lucky, I have shared so many good times with them, and in bad ones, they helped make it better….

  4. Just beautiful. Sadly it is so true that we don’t stop and smell those sweet roses as we go along.
    Prayers to Walter.
    purrs
    >^,,^<
    ♥Abby♥Boo♥Ping♥Jinx♥Grace♥

    1. Irene – thanks! It sure was a night I will never forget. I am so thankful we did this. It really brought us closer together and was so thought provoking…

  5. What a lovely post! Make the most of every moment! It is so easy to forget this when you are in the midst of the daily grind, but so very important!

  6. A beautiful post! And a wonderful life lesson! Wouldn’t it be great if we celebrated the joy and memories our friends bring us when they are with us! It makes much more sense and memories you have forever!

    1. Darcie – Thanks so much…. It would be so great if we just celebrated the “now” with our loved ones. It sounds so easy in theory, doesn’t it? But like Mr. Pip said, it is so easy to forget to do when we are in the midst of the daily grind… so sad…

  7. How beautiful and yet so true. Shouldn’t we always take time to share ourselves with others from our heart? We should! And, yet we don’t all too often. Begining today, I want to seize every opportunity I can to let those I love know how I feel about them. This is important. Time is short, relationships are short, life is short!

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  8. Love this post…so true. Even after all the years living here some of my closest friends are the ones from my childhood growing up in Germany…we make sure to stay in touch and share what’s going on and how we feel about each other!!!! It’s true what they say “you can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends!”

    1. Susi – I can’t imagine how hard it is to have so many of your close friends in Germany. I find it hard to have loved ones in FL and that is less than a 3 hour plan ride away… Fortunately, technology must have made it easier to communicate, but it is not the same…. I am so happy you all are able to express your feelings. You guys are the lucky ones. I agree with your family comment. I feel that friends are the family we choose! HUGS

  9. I don’t understand how people have to be prompted to tell each other how much they care, but they can tell practically anything to a friend’s/family member’s/ stranger’s dog!

    1. Rumpy – I don’t understand either… maybe it is fear? Maybe people feel they can talk abou all the surface things with ease, but when it comes to feelings, maybe they fear if they express them they won’t be reciprocated?

  10. How sad and how true! We don’t stop often enough to think of how much we mean to each other ~ and then too often it’s too late. Very thought provoking!

    1. Donna – I know.. It is hard not to… it is so easy to take what we have, and who we love for granted. We just assume they will be there forever, but sadly, forever doesn’t exhist…

  11. I had to hold my tears in. You were so right, I really loved this post. It was so moving and I felt like I was there sitting in the corner observing all of you … Glad you all shared the “living funeral” moment ..

    1. Angela – thanks… It brought tears to my eyes as I wrote it too… and that night, there wasn’t a dry eye in the house. It is sad, so many of the people we were talking about (and others that seemed fine at the time) aren’t here anymore…. It really puts things into perspective… it is so easy to get wrapped up in the day to day bullshit and lose sight of the big picture. Sometimes we need to just take a step back… So recomend getting together with friends and having a “funeral”

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